Intimacy is the capacity to connect with your Self and others, Enduring trauma may lead to disconnects between you and others or you and your Self.
Exercise I
1. Do you feel connected to others, and if so, whom?
2. To me an intimate relationship means I .......
3. At this time I have an intimate relationship with ..
4. I believe the word love means........
5. I am able to express my love safely?
6. I can express love safely with ............
7. From whom and where do I get support?
8. From whom and where do I get love?
9. Do I feel more distant from others now, after the trauma(s) or after I've begun working them through?
10. How do I express love and caring to myself and others?
11. Am I able to have an intimate sexual relationship with another?
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Wednesday, February 22, 2012
Identifying & Challenging Your Beliefs About Trust
Which of the following statements describes you?
1. I stay away from people
2. I avoid certain activities and if so what sorts.
3. I want to spend my time alone
4. I'm afraid to talk to others
5. I'm afraid to get physically close to others
6. I try to force myself on others
7. I say NO to any suggestion of sexual contact with someone for whom I have feelings
8. I over do taking care of others
9. I have no one to take care of me
10. I am hostile toward others
11. I'm afraid to depend on others
12. I believe others will let me down
13. I am unable to play
14. I fear touch
15. I have trouble making and / or keeping friends
16. I have no friends
17. I can't disclose myself to anyone
18. I don't trust that I'm okay
19. I feel unlovable and undeserving of love
20. I have trouble making decisions
21. I don't believe what others say about me
Now please choose one of your answers from the above questions. The answer is ...........
1. What does it say about you?
2. Now, what does THAT answer say about you?
3. And what does THAT answer say about you?
The third answer, question 3, gives you your deeply held, self limiting, negative, core belief.
To examine this belief, ask:
1. Does this belong to me or someone else?
2. Does it fit my priorities and goals?
3. Does it fit my values and judgments?
4. Does it make me feel better or worse?
5. Does it create unnecessary suffering in any way?
6. Does it put appropriate demands on me at home, work and play?
1. I stay away from people
2. I avoid certain activities and if so what sorts.
3. I want to spend my time alone
4. I'm afraid to talk to others
5. I'm afraid to get physically close to others
6. I try to force myself on others
7. I say NO to any suggestion of sexual contact with someone for whom I have feelings
8. I over do taking care of others
9. I have no one to take care of me
10. I am hostile toward others
11. I'm afraid to depend on others
12. I believe others will let me down
13. I am unable to play
14. I fear touch
15. I have trouble making and / or keeping friends
16. I have no friends
17. I can't disclose myself to anyone
18. I don't trust that I'm okay
19. I feel unlovable and undeserving of love
20. I have trouble making decisions
21. I don't believe what others say about me
Now please choose one of your answers from the above questions. The answer is ...........
1. What does it say about you?
2. Now, what does THAT answer say about you?
3. And what does THAT answer say about you?
The third answer, question 3, gives you your deeply held, self limiting, negative, core belief.
To examine this belief, ask:
1. Does this belong to me or someone else?
2. Does it fit my priorities and goals?
3. Does it fit my values and judgments?
4. Does it make me feel better or worse?
5. Does it create unnecessary suffering in any way?
6. Does it put appropriate demands on me at home, work and play?
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