Wednesday, November 21, 2012

Happy Thanksgiving To All The Beloveds Seen & Unseen

By Billy Collins, currently my favorite poet

The Gathering, a Thanksgiving Poem

Outside, the scene was right for the season,
heavy gray clouds and just enough wind
to blow down the last of the yellow leaves.
But the house was different that day,
so distant from the other houses,
like a planet inhabited by only a dozen people
with the same last name and the same nose
rotating slowly on its invisible axis.
Too bad you couldn't be there
but you were flying through space on your own asteroid
with your arm around an uncle.
You would have unwrapped your scarf
and thrown your coat on top of the pile
then lifted a glass of wine
as a tiny man ran across a screen with a ball.
You would have heard me
saying grace with my elbows on the tablecloth
as one of the twins threw a dinner roll across the room at the other.

Love

 
"In the arithmetic of love, one plus one equals everything, and two minus one equals nothing."

Mignon McLaughlin

Thursday, November 15, 2012

My Godson Breathes Creativity!

Check out Creative Flow Glassworks on ETSY
or contact Dan Kilmer @
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Therapy Tools For The Savvy Coach

Hello Coaches!

I've just finished recording the first in my 'Therapy Tools For The Savvy Coach' podcast series!

Podcast One includes a step by step walk through of two popular psychological modalities: 1.) Solution Focused Brief Therapy, and 2.) Cognitive Behavioral Therapy as well as a detailed description of one of my favorite CBT tools, the Self Referencing Negative Self Talk Journal designed to help your clients become more aware of their self referencing negative thoughts and the connection between thoughts and moods.

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Wednesday, November 7, 2012

Living In The North: Stephen Badwhar

http://youtu.be/TzTGA1lt0S4
Stephen Badwhar

http://youtu.be/YPdPg1rl8XA
 Heli Skiing

My Beautiful Atlin Home

In the Northwesternmost corner of BC on the Yukon-Alaska borders, is Atlin...










Young People Talk Tlingit Past and Present

http://youtu.be/HhdhNso86tk

The Tlingit Peoples

http://youtu.be/eJsgO8uWUf0

My teacher and nephew, Wayne Carlick

http://youtu.be/UtOzOlYzzxA

Martha Beck's Fall Bookshelf

On Martha's Bookshelf

You may have noticed the kerfuffle of attention around a new book called Proof of Heaven, by Dr. Eben Alexander. The author was an academic neurosurgeon who taught at Harvard Medical School for fifteen years and published scores of articles in medical journals. He had heard some of his patients describe “near-death experiences” and was quite sure their occurrences were explained by random firing of the distressed neurons in their brains.

A few years ago Dr. Alexander developed a freakishly rare bacterial meningitis. By the time he was diagnosed, he was in a deep coma and the disease had literally eaten the entire cortex of his brain. The coma lasted seven days, during which Alexander was closely monitored and known to have no cortical function. This meant that he was unable to use any sections of the brain that have to do with cognition of any kind. As he puts it, his brain was not just damaged; it was off.

I’m sure you saw this coming: the entire time Dr. Alexander’s brain was essentially Jell-O he was having one hell of a near-death experience. He describes entering a dimension of existence that made his “real” life as a physical being seem like a flimsy transparent dream. He learned more than his brain can presently articulate, but the most important of these lessons were these three statements: “You are loved and cherished, dearly, forever.” “You have nothing to fear.” “There is nothing you can do wrong.”
For fans of near-death experiences, this is not new information. 

However, Dr. Alexander’s experience is what he calls “the perfect storm” of near-death experiences. He is a trained neuroscientist, more capable than most of us at understanding what can happen in the brain. He was under the closest medical supervision. Unlike most people who undergo near-death experiences, his entire brain was simply not functioning during his adventure. 

He humbly expresses a belief that he was given this experience, on top of his lifelong training, so that he could be in a position to not only tell his story but to be believed. I highly recommend this quick and fascinating read. You definitely want to go on this ride with the good doctor. By the way his recovery of full cognitive function after such severe brain damage is virtually impossible. 

Go figure.


Thursday, November 1, 2012

I'm So Grateful To Each of You For Your Recommendations

 I love my work!
  
Alexandra Vance LMFT, Authorized and Certified RH Enneagram Teacher and Coach,

Ilene Hart is a highly intelligent and creative professional who is commited to working with soldiers and their families. She is predictable and responsible in her work ethic. Ilene is capable of organizing programs, delivering service and managing others. She is compassionate and caring. The end result of her work is that she helps soldiers and their families to deal with reality, reframe their stories and determine goals for future achievement. It has been a pleasure to work with Ilene because of her personal integrity and compassion.” August 29, 2010


Julia Terry, MFLC, MHN Government Services (colleague)

Ilene is a compassionate, friendly and energetic woman. She has much insight to offer and wisdom from her years of living / working. She has a strong combination of positive characteristics which are a delight to be around.” August 30, 2010

Debbie Simmer

Ilene is gifted counselor and a blessing to those that meet her and work with her. She has wisdom culled from working with many cultures and clients; she is adept at a wide range of practical tools and techniques; she has compassion and humor~all of which contribute to rapid gains in awareness for her clients. I have worked with Ilene in person, over the phone and with other family members, always with supreme admiration for her work and her deep desire to bring benefit to others.” September 3, 2010


Paula Martin

Ilene is a compassionate and caring person. She has helped me out of the darkest, worst period of my life thru her expertise and dedication to my healing. Ilene is someone I will always feel grateful to.” September 6, 2010


Bill Miller


Ilene was there for me when i needed someone to help me understand myself, my emotions my everything. she was truly inspirational and informative. my life is better because we crossed paths. thank you very much ilene. i love you!” April 17, 2011


Becky Schnakenberg, Owner, consultant to major league baseball teams (colleague)

I have know Ilene professionally for almost 20 years, and she has proven to be a compassionate and skilled clinician. She has a wide variety of clinical and managerial skills, but it is her magical way with people which will instantly win you over.” April 18, 2011

Ilene has been a friend and colleague of mine for 20 years! Recently, I hired her to work with a new Cuban immigrant professional baseball player who is considered to be a big prospect in MLB. She did a fantastic job. She continues to amaze me with her non-judgmental, non-traditional approaches. She's one of a kind!” August 12, 2012


Ken Siegel

Ilene is an amazing person with excellent professional skills and work ethic.” April 17, 2011

Rich Kaplan

Ilene is a deeply compassionate person with excellent interpersonal skills. I would not hesitate to recommend her as a life coach She is truly gifted.” April 17, 2011


Nancy Case, MA, LMHC (client)

I met Ilene at a critical turning point in my life's journey and her guidance, support, empathy, therapeutic skills and wisdom helped me navigate the change with strength, compassion and courage. I would recommend her highly to anyone and am grateful to have her as a part of my life!” April 24, 2011


Janet Sickler, Clinical Therapist, Janet Rothman Sickler, M.A., L.P.C. (colleague)

Ilene Hart was my colleague in a group practice when I was getting my licensure. She became my supervisor. It was a wonderful opportunity for me to sfaff clients and learn from her astute observations. We have continued meeting and working together in various ways for the past 13 years. She is an excellent diagnostician and clinician, but, more impressive, is her ability to see "outside the box" with clients and recognize their deepest needs, fears, traumas, and passions. Her work is spiritual, motivational as well as practical, direct, challenging, and sensitive. She is able to frame difficult and overwhelming situations a broad and positiver terms. She has been an inspiration to me in my work. She is extrenmely creative. We have done experiential workshops together with great success. Her ability to use and/or chosse a variety of maodalities best suited to each client is highly effective. I would recommend Ilene Hart to anyone seeking profound and life changing personal work.” April 25, 2011

Suzi Mason

Ilene was just the support I needed when personal life events became quite challenging. She provided the much needed tools to get my life back on track and headed in the right direction. She is inspiring, uplifting, creative, and fun to work with. I'd highly recommend her as a counselor or coach.” April 28, 2011

M'Liss Hadley

Ilene is an amazing counselor. She truly cares for her clients and makes every effort to assist in problem solving and finding happiness in life.” April 27, 2011
Request a new or revised recommendation from M'Liss Hadley

Thank You Kinesphere



Hope is a state of mind, not of the world. Hope, in this deep and powerful sense, is not the same as joy that things are going well, or willingness to invest in enterprises that are obviously heading for success, but rather an ability to work for something because it is good.  
    
  - Vaclav Havel

In Honor of My Aunt Gert's 99th Birthday


Left to right: My Mom, Doris Rosenblatt Siegel, my Paternal Grandmother Bessie Annexton Siegel, my Aunt Gert (Siegel)and her husband Ben Cohen, my father, Leonard Siegel and my Paternal Grandfather, JD Siegel

A Brave and Startling Truth


We, this people, on a small and lonely planet
Traveling through casual space
Past aloof stars, across the way of indifferent suns
To a destination where all signs tell us
It is possible and imperative that we learn
A brave and startling truth

And when we come to it
To the day of peacemaking
When we release our fingers
From fists of hostility
And allow the pure air to cool our palms

When we come to it
When the curtain falls on the minstrel show of hate
And faces sooted with scorn are scrubbed clean
When battlefields and coliseum
No longer rake our unique and particular sons and daughters
Up with the bruised and bloody grass
To lie in identical plots in foreign soil

When the rapacious storming of the churches
The screaming racket in the temples have ceased
When the pennants are waving gaily
When the banners of the world tremble
Stoutly in the good, clean breeze

When we come to it
When we let the rifles fall from our shoulders
And children dress their dolls in flags of truce
When land mines of death have been removed
And the aged can walk into evenings of peace
When religious ritual is not perfumed
By the incense of burning flesh
And childhood dreams are not kicked awake
By nightmares of abuse

When we come to it
Then we will confess that not the Pyramids
With their stones set in mysterious perfection
Nor the Gardens of Babylon
Hanging as eternal beauty
In our collective memory
Not the Grand Canyon
Kindled into delicious color
By Western sunsets

Nor the Danube, flowing its blue soul into Europe
Not the sacred peak of Mount Fuji
Stretching to the Rising Sun
Neither Father Amazon nor Mother Mississippi who, without favor,
Nurture all creatures in the depths and on the shores
These are not the only wonders of the world

When we come to it
We, this people, on this minuscule and kithless globe
Who reach daily for the bomb, the blade and the dagger
Yet who petition in the dark for tokens of peace
We, this people on this mote of matter
In whose mouths abide cankerous words
Which challenge our very existence
Yet out of those same mouths
Come songs of such exquisite sweetness
That the heart falters in its labor
And the body is quieted into awe

We, this people, on this small and drifting planet
Whose hands can strike with such abandon
That in a twinkling, life is sapped from the living
Yet those same hands can touch with such healing, irresistible tenderness
That the haughty neck is happy to bow
And the proud back is glad to bend
Out of such chaos, of such contradiction
We learn that we are neither devils nor divines

When we come to it
We, this people, on this wayward, floating body
Created on this earth, of this earth
Have the power to fashion for this earth
A climate where every man and every woman
Can live freely without sanctimonious piety
Without crippling fear

When we come to it
We must confess that we are the possible
We are the miraculous, the true wonder of this world
That is when, and only when
We come to it.

Maya Angelou