Charlee's
Tips For Tawkifiers
1.
How to make Charlee's Tawkify Cocktail:
1
cup red wine
1/4
cup vodka
2
tbsp. sugar
1
whole vanilla bean stalk
1
whole cinnamon bean stalk
2.
Twenty minutes before you're due to pick up the phone, make the
cocktail.
3.
Sit down, sip, and relax the 101 muscles of your face.
4.
This is where your expression manifests, it's very emotional, and
even if you're not meeting someone face-to-face your expression and
posture will affect how you feel and communicate.
5.
After you relax the chin muscles, the cheeks, around the mouth,
around the eyes, the nose, and the forehead, then focus on a feeling
inside of yourself that is like a substance of all that you love
about yourself, and let that expression come into your face and
animate it. This will give you a better starting-point for expressing
and communicating.
6.
Don't be too aloof—if you wanted to gain the attention of someone
who responds to coldness, then you're fishing in a sea of sick fish.
We want healthy ones, here!
7.
Don't be overly giving of yourself yet, but be reasonably generous
with your attention—an interested attitude—a warm radiance of
attention is what attracts people.
8.
It's a good space to get to know people. Be available and warm, but
don't push so far in the person backs away.
9.
Speak slowly and let your emotion color your speech. When I got back
to New York from France one summer when I was 21, my old boyfriend
came by for tea. I was so used to speaking in slow, articulated,
(with a slight exaggeration in the "feeling" behind it for
toning effect) English with the Parisians who couldn't suffer my
hacked French, that it remained a habit for a while after I returned.
"This is the best time I can remember having in YEARS!" my
ex said, with a peculiarly renewed interest in me. Later I asked him
why he enjoyed my company so much when all I did was offer him tea
and ordinary conversation. He said I spoke so nicely--so slowly and
clearly--that he was enchanted and felt the power of the exchange. I
have tried to remember to slow down and enunciate since then. "It
made you sound more intelligent," he said!
10.
Remember people's hearts are at stake here—be honest and try to be
kind.
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