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Wednesday, December 28, 2011
Chill Group For Young Adults
Ilene Hart Consulting
Ilene Hart, MC, LPC
906 W McDowell Rd
Phoenix, AZ 85007
(253) 279-8146
“Chill Group” Will Significantly Reduce Your Stress Level In Six Weeks
- Group meets once a week for six weeks for an hour, after school
- Group will begin in January
- Facilitated by Ilene Hart, LPC
- Minimum enrollment 5 people
- Maximum enrollment 8 people
- Fee for six week group is $150 per person, payable at first session
- To enroll please call Ilene (253) 279-8146
Some of the topics we'll cover:
- How stress operates
- The difference between a stressor and stress
- How our thoughts create our moods
- Cognitive Behavioral tools for identifying, analyzing and replacing negative self talk
- Creation of your personal negative self talk journal
- Byron Katie's map for refuting the illogic of a negative belief
- How to effectively question your “I have to's”
- Accounting for your time and priorities
- Healthy selfishness
- Using the Traditional Medicine Wheel
- Energy Work
- Strengthening the whole you: mind, body, heart and spirit
- Experiential exercises
- creative visualizing
- progressive muscle relaxation
- Donna Eden's 5- minute daily energy balancing routine
- Emotional freedom technique
- thought watching
- healing breath work
Relaxation Group Seeding
Ilene Hart Consulting
Ilene Hart, MC, LPC
906 W McDowell Rd
Phoenix, AZ 85007
(253) 279-8146
Significantly Reduce Your Stress Level In Six Weeks
“Relaxation Group”
- Group meets for an hour and a half, one evening a week
- Group will begin the second or third week of January
- Facilitated by Ilene Hart, LPC
- Minimum enrollment 5 people
- Maximum enrollment 8 people
- Fee for six week “Relaxation Group” is $180 per person, payable at first session
Some of the topics we'll cover:
- How stress operates
- The difference between a stressor and stress
- How our thoughts create our moods
- Cognitive Behavioral tools for identifying, analyzing and replacing negative self talk
- Creation of your personal negative self talk journal
- Byron Katie's map for refuting the illogic of a negative belief
- How to effectively question your “I have to's”
- Accounting for your time and priorities
- Healthy selfishness
- How to remember to play
- Strengthening the whole you: mind, body, heart and spirit
- Experiential exercises
- creative visualizing
- progressive muscle relaxation
- Donna Eden's 5- minute daily energy balancing routine
- Emotional freedom technique
- thought watching
- healing breath work
- movement and laughter
Please call me with any questions or to enroll!
Friday, December 23, 2011
WE'VE ALL GOT PLENTY OF BURDENS TO LAY DOWN...
http://youtu.be/LfNiWqsrsrw
THANKS Bonnie and Delaney
THANKS Bonnie and Delaney
Wednesday, December 21, 2011
Sunday, December 18, 2011
Wednesday, December 14, 2011
Just A Thought For Husbands With Emotional Expressive Wives
Dear Doc,
I have a hard time with my wife. She is very loving and supportive. But when she gets upset about something, she goes from zero to 100 in the blink of an eye. I mean it. She can get so upset and irrational, so quickly, all I can do is try to hang on or get out of the way. But when I try to excuse myself, it makes her even more irate. This has felt like an impossible situation for years. I read your book and I have stopped arguing. But the insanity continues. Something has to change. Please give me some direction.
Signed,
In the Line of Fire
Dear In the Line of Fire,
That something that has to change is YOU. You can’t handle your wife, or least her emotional outbursts. And when she sees that, it’s like throwing gasoline on her raging inferno. I think it’s time to share with you an important firefighting technique.
What you currently have with your wife is the opportunity to manage a “controlled burn.” In the forest, controlled burns are used to encourage the germination of desirable trees that would otherwise be prevented from growing by older growth. (Here comes the heroic leap to make sense of this metaphor.) Your wife has some old habits that can be burned away if you can demonstrate some new growth of your own.
I suspect that as she gets bigger (more emotional) your tendency has been to get smaller (wanting to run away.) Pretty common stuff. Just as she needs someone strong who isn’t afraid of or overwhelmed by her emotions, you shrink and want to hide because her outbursts send you back to your childhood. The way to silence the little boy in you (so you can care for the little girl in her) is to act more like the man you want to be.
So what does that man look like? Let me make a few suggestions. He is not afraid of his wife. He is the rock, and can remain completely unscathed by her emotional comings and goings. He commits to being the man with his wife, not the little boy who grew up with an overbearing parent.
For a lot of men who had an emotional mom or raging dad, any emotional rise in temperature takes them back to a time when it was safer to be silent, invisible, or just gone. But you’re all grown up now. What your wife needs is for you to be strong, present, and loving. When you shrink away, you’re making it all about you. What she needs in these moments is for you to make it all about her.
It’s impossible to cherish and protect your girl when you’re acting like a little boy.
Without getting into too much psycho tech talk, just know that for whatever reason, your loving and supportive wife didn’t grow up in such a loving a supportive home herself. Despite that, she’s a great woman who still behaves—sometimes—as if she’s in that home of her childhood. When you can’t take it, then her experience is just like it was back in the day. But when you are strong, she’ll have a new experience, and that’s when the new growth will really take off.
Although it takes two to tango—or in this case, to start a forest fire—you, being the man you want to be, can completely control this burn. And when you do, she’ll feel so much more secure and so much more loved.
In time you’ll realize that, as you strengthen as a man and husband, her “infernos” will have no more power than that of a single match. And when that day arrives, you’ll be able to retire your firefighting gear.
I have a hard time with my wife. She is very loving and supportive. But when she gets upset about something, she goes from zero to 100 in the blink of an eye. I mean it. She can get so upset and irrational, so quickly, all I can do is try to hang on or get out of the way. But when I try to excuse myself, it makes her even more irate. This has felt like an impossible situation for years. I read your book and I have stopped arguing. But the insanity continues. Something has to change. Please give me some direction.
Signed,
In the Line of Fire
Dear In the Line of Fire,
That something that has to change is YOU. You can’t handle your wife, or least her emotional outbursts. And when she sees that, it’s like throwing gasoline on her raging inferno. I think it’s time to share with you an important firefighting technique.
What you currently have with your wife is the opportunity to manage a “controlled burn.” In the forest, controlled burns are used to encourage the germination of desirable trees that would otherwise be prevented from growing by older growth. (Here comes the heroic leap to make sense of this metaphor.) Your wife has some old habits that can be burned away if you can demonstrate some new growth of your own.
I suspect that as she gets bigger (more emotional) your tendency has been to get smaller (wanting to run away.) Pretty common stuff. Just as she needs someone strong who isn’t afraid of or overwhelmed by her emotions, you shrink and want to hide because her outbursts send you back to your childhood. The way to silence the little boy in you (so you can care for the little girl in her) is to act more like the man you want to be.
So what does that man look like? Let me make a few suggestions. He is not afraid of his wife. He is the rock, and can remain completely unscathed by her emotional comings and goings. He commits to being the man with his wife, not the little boy who grew up with an overbearing parent.
For a lot of men who had an emotional mom or raging dad, any emotional rise in temperature takes them back to a time when it was safer to be silent, invisible, or just gone. But you’re all grown up now. What your wife needs is for you to be strong, present, and loving. When you shrink away, you’re making it all about you. What she needs in these moments is for you to make it all about her.
It’s impossible to cherish and protect your girl when you’re acting like a little boy.
Without getting into too much psycho tech talk, just know that for whatever reason, your loving and supportive wife didn’t grow up in such a loving a supportive home herself. Despite that, she’s a great woman who still behaves—sometimes—as if she’s in that home of her childhood. When you can’t take it, then her experience is just like it was back in the day. But when you are strong, she’ll have a new experience, and that’s when the new growth will really take off.
Although it takes two to tango—or in this case, to start a forest fire—you, being the man you want to be, can completely control this burn. And when you do, she’ll feel so much more secure and so much more loved.
In time you’ll realize that, as you strengthen as a man and husband, her “infernos” will have no more power than that of a single match. And when that day arrives, you’ll be able to retire your firefighting gear.
Saturday, December 10, 2011
Soldiers Altar
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| Let's remember all our Soldiers and all their family members this holiday season and always... |
Not to be braggin' but...
And Baby Jack's hilarious!
It's The Season
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| The tree (dead bush) is lit... |
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| The cherries are marinating in vodka... |
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| The snow angels are out... |
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